Tough love with a hug
Taking radical responsibility for what you want, who you are, being honest with yourself and not depending on others for your inner happiness makes you powerful beyond measure. Maybe it’s kinda harsh to word it like that, ‘not depend on others’, I mean, that’s what relationships are about, right? But our job is not to make people happy or to assume others will make us happy. Our job is to show up as honestly as possible so we can create what we want for ourselves. A necessary ingredient when it comes to goals you have with health and fitness. When you know what you want you can then draw your lines in the sand: what are you willing to do to make these things happen, even when it feels impossible? When you set your commitment to yourself and the boundaries needed to make that happen you have to be willing to follow through if they get crossed. THAT’S hard. It takes self-awareness, confidence, honesty, self-respect and relentless integrity. Often you’re against 2 choices:
1. Stick to your boundaries, your commitment 2. Everything else So, if you decide to compromise on that commitment you have 2 more choices:
1. Figure out a way to shift your expectations, do the work to be okay with that (how can you still stay in your power?) 2. Be a victim to that compromise. Literally, that’s it. If you compromise, what expectations are you willing to let go of? OR How do you need to get out of your own way? Are you dipping out when things become uncomfortable? Or are you borrowing goals from someone or something else? Or do you not really want it? When you’re not willing to go deeper with what you truly want for your body, you health your life you’re not creating the right road map to get you there. When you face the truth of what you want and your actions right now, you get out of your own damn way. That truthful road map can be scary. But feeling frustrated because you’re not progressing feels worse. If you’re going to compromise, own your decision. If you don’t want to compromise, what are you going to do about that? Tough love with a hug but you’ve more power than you think.
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