• olivia park

The one thing you can do to knock down the patriarchal lens in fitness ...

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On the 14th rep he squeezed my tricep and commented, ‘Very good’.⁣⁣⁣⁣

Earlier, he squeezed my hips and told me that part of me was nice, ‘The best’, he said.⁣⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ Different cultures provide different boundaries for what is acceptable and not acceptable to say or do to a human.⁣⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ But what is across the board is the obvious patriarchal lens for which fitness is viewed—no matter where we are in the world.⁣⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ Whether he squeezed my hips and told me they were disastrous or nice is irrelevant. What he's seeing is through his lens, not mine.⁣⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ But if my lens were different for how I feel about myself, it may have been more than just neither here nor there for me.⁣⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ But it’s not. There’s not a single thing he, nor anyone, could say that would make me think differently about my appearance.⁣⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ What it is, however, is a reminder of the broader scope of the patriarchal lens that fitness is viewed through.⁣⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ To look a certain way.⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ What is acceptable.⁣⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ What is good.⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣ It’s interesting he felt he had the right to provide unsolicited feedback on my body, my looks. But I didn’t have the local language to turn it back on him.⁣⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ Across the board it’s the same. Whether in a country that is your own or one that is foreign, the one thing you can depend on is yourself.⁣⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ The way in which we can change the the patriarchal lens of fitness—in a foreign country without the language to do so or in our own—is by owning our body in every single iteration it comes in. It’s an ever-changing organism that can never, ever be defined as good or bad, fat or thin, weak or strong, acceptable or not.⁣⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ You deciding that your actual self is not conceptual is the most impactful thing you can do.⁣⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ If someone comments on your body, stay in your own self appreciation. Someone else’s concept of you has nothing to do with you. That’s their business.⁣⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ You decide the lens in which you see your own body, what your true self is.⁣⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ Then, change the ‘conversation’ to a more interesting topic.


We talked about our equal love for bicep curls.


Then we decided to have a pull up battle.⁣


His false grip pull ups would have been more impressive if they were full reps. Just saying.


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